As I mentioned earlier, I have a scar on my arm. It's not pretty. But it's better than it was.
I remember seeing that scar the first day I took the bandage off my arm, 8 days post-op. All the steri-strips had fallen off, and all that was left was a very exposed, very raw scar. I couldn't cover it with long sleeves; it was painful to touch, to try to cover, so I pretty much stayed inside the house, content to be alone with my wound while it healed.
Within a few weeks, I could tell it was getting better, but still it was red and raw. At least it was no longer painful to the touch, so I could put on a long sleeve shirt and go outside into the world.
As more time passed, I was still acutely aware of the scar, and at times, others were aware of it as well. But for the most part, I no longer thought about it all the time. Every now and then, I'd bump it, and it would hurt, and I would remember it was there.
It's still there. Not yet healed, but not so raw. Just . . . well . . . there.
I am assured by the folks that know these things, that someday my scar will be a tiny little line, a small reminder that I once had something bad happen to me.
I think that's the way of scars. And the usefulness of them. They are a small reminder that something bad once happened to us. And that we survived.
All that to say, I guess I'll learn to love this scar I am presently carrying. You know the one I mean.